Psychologist Eli Finkel said people today expected a lot more out of their marriage than people did in the past, which is probably not a bad thing and goes with all of the other world changes. We expect a lot more out of most things now! Finkel is a professor of social psychology at America’s ... [ Read More ]
Kids who go to sleep dreaming of the parent they are not allowed to see
Sometimes it takes years for family matters to go to court so children can be re-united with their other parent. This time can never be made up and a little piece of the child is taken away. Our children need to spend time with their parents. Of course, it is a totally different matter when parents ... [ Read More ]
My broken heart was worse at night
A broken heart can take time to mend and many experts say it’s important to cry and challenge thoughts, but there are also some practical things that can help. Broken hearts are often worse at night because this is the time you would normally spend with someone and it is often the little reminders ... [ Read More ]
Never let kids think they can’t miss the other parent
Tucking kids in at night is sometimes emotional; maybe together you have had a great day or a particularly hard day. Whatever the tears might be about, it is crucial that your child feels like they can tell you why they are sad. As parents, we can take things to heart and make the comment about ... [ Read More ]
No more sleeping on it – I am leaving
Unfortunately we all know people involved in relationship breakdowns and the hope is not always that people get back together, but more importantly, they look after themselves and be the best person they can be. The most common words I hear from friends who have gone through a relationship ... [ Read More ]
May I have an affair please?
If we asked whether having an affair or not was okay would this make life a little easier? At least if your partner asked you if it was okay you could take it a few ways: Way 1: Relieved that you have a chance to change things in the marriage before it is too late. Way 2: Relieved that you got ... [ Read More ]
Look for the smiles when parenting with your Ex
All those parents who co-parent these days can count their lucky stars; I co-parent and I think of all of the positive things my life now has: 1. A beautiful well-adjusted 10-year-old daughter. 2. A person I can still seek parenting advice from. 3. A better platform for discussion because ... [ Read More ]
Kids with two homes
Taking the child’s favourites between homes When children go between Mum’s place and Dad’s place, whether it be on weekends, for one week or a night, we all want the transition to be as best as it can be for the child. Sharing some things between homes can be difficult and stressful. ... [ Read More ]
Make amends for health reasons
Make amends for health reasons There are so many reasons while people do or don’t get on. I meet people for the first time and have an idea whether we ‘click or not’. However, this feeling is not always accurate. People are complex there are no two ways about that and topped with the fact ... [ Read More ]
Sweet good night text from my Daughter
Sweet good night text from my Daughter When I wave to my 8-year-old daughter, as she drives away from my house with her Dad for the night, her last words to me are: “I will send you a good night text later Mummy”. It is a relief and it is a lovely thing and also it means, in my mind, I ... [ Read More ]
Separated parents’ child quandary
Separated parents’ child quandary Kids often want nothing more than their parents to get back together. My daughter doesn’t actually say this, but she treasures photos of us as a family (apart for five years). This doesn’t bother me at all – I think it is healthy. Recently Emma took an old ... [ Read More ]
Dads having kids at night
Dads having kids at night With many separated and divorced families - Dads are doing a lot of the night time children activities alone. Dads don’t expect that you will know what to do immediately – it will take time. Mothers took their time to find out what worked. Some tips for a stress free ... [ Read More ]
My parents fight
My parents fight Kids Helpline is a must for kids who feel lost at home and don’t know what to do. If this is you or you know someone try and get them to call Kids Helpline. It is a free call in Australia and you don’t have to tell them your name. So if you are in your room now and feeling ... [ Read More ]
Single parents and good habits
Nutrition and sleep When the war was current and the depression hit families everyone was affected. Presently, just personal wars are causing grief. Years ago food was a problem because it was scarce. Now the scarcity isn’t the problem but the nutritional level is and the sleep patterns of ... [ Read More ]
Good night texts to daughter
Goodnight texts to daughter ANOTHER great thing about technology is it helps separated families. Some of the communication available is is Skype (internet communication with vision) and various chat places and old fashioned texting! My daughter is 8-years-old now so a good age to be ... [ Read More ]
Single parents find work and rest balance
Single parents find work and rest balance The juggling act is hard and it needs work - it will not just fall into place. Decide what is truly important to you and your children and prioritise. In my home, routine, healthy eating, quality sleep and rest, family time, achievements and ... [ Read More ]
My parents separated
My parents separated My parents separated when I was 21-years-old. I was overseas when it finally happened - so being absent was good for me. So many parents are doing it now when kids are very young. Recently, I have had late night texts with my ex-husband. He wants me to have our daughter ... [ Read More ]
Love is and can be forever
The sleep team: There are songs about it, people die because of it, people can’t stop talking about people who have it or don’t have it, people say they are happy without it, but you probably have to say this – to survive. We need to love, eat and sleep and we cannot reach our full potential ... [ Read More ]
Single Moms, Do You Give In?
Single Moms, Do You Give In? By Jessica Rector When you're a mom, sometimes you can't get anything done. Well, you can't get things done the way YOU want them done. As I sit my eight-month-old son down in the living room surrounded by his security gates, that rarely do as they're intended, I'm ... [ Read More ]
I lay awake thinking …
Relationship happiness is probably one of the hardest types of happiness people all over the world try and grasp. There are so many books out there that tell us how to be happy and if we are happy and how to be happy if we are not. However, I still hear from people that something is missing. The ... [ Read More ]
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