Relieved that you have a chance to change things in the marriage before it is too late.
Relieved that you got him/her before he/she did the unthinkable, and could tell people it was over because he/she wanted to have an affair!!!
Relieved that he/she thought to ask and maybe the other person thought it was a good idea for both!!
And another good reason to ask is because the person wanting to ask permission to have an affair may think about it a little more if they had to ask! Similarly, when you want to buy a new car, you don’t just buy one, but there is a process to go through:
What car do I want?
How much do I want to pay?
Can I wait a little longer and afford a better one?
Is this deal too good too refuse??
Am I just being absolutely and utterly stupendous??
Can we look at affairs differently? Some people say an affair is a deal breaker, but is it? Of course it is the absolute act of betrayal and it looks worse in a society where being monogamous is paramount to most! Is infidelity worse than betraying you in another untrustworthy way? A lot of people say it is a deal breaker and look, it is definitely a time when change needs to happen, but I wonder if there is another way to look at it? Maybe there is or maybe there isn’t.