I heard on the radio the other day that it is really the woman’s job to keep their partner faithful because, to put it simply (like some men must be if they think life is that simple) if they are not feeling like they are loved, they will search for it elsewhere! And when this person on the radio was asked by the presenter, Robin Bailey from 97.3FM Radio Station, what responsibility the man has, the response was basically not much.
Well I find this disturbing because as adults it is not someone else’s responsibility to keep us happy and loved and nurtured, it is ours. During a Grade 2 lunch break I would imagine if a child wasn’t playing with someone very nicely and being mean, they would choose another friend and then over time they would learn how to manage friendships and grow into adulthood and make good choices about respecting others and themselves.
If someone chooses to cheat it is only their choice and nobody else’s responsibility. Of course people are going to say it is someone else’s problem because people in the wrong love to push the blame. We all have a voice and this must be used when we think our relationships are lacking in an area and let’s face it, at some time in the relationship, any relationship, there will need to be times to discuss issues, large and small.
This attitude of it being the woman’s fault was shocking to hear and I have never had someone cheat, so I can only imagine what it feels like to hear this if you have. I feel for those people who heard this and then went into blaming mode and especially for those who are still raw emotionally.