The question itself is offensive. If a person was asked and they hadn’t been – would they then not wonder why they were being asked? Some people say the person who asks is said to be the guilty one???
If the person has not been honest to date – why would they risk being honest when asked?
I think when the evidence is clear then people back down and realise they have to make a choice. Marital affairs can be a hurdle people get over, however, it must start with honesty at some point. Not everyone believes it is a deal breaker and many marriages survive affairs.
However, it is a gamble during the whole journey and the outcome is unknown to all parties. Nobody wants to think their devoted husband or wife is having an affair – so this is why everyone thinks it is happening to someone else.
Unfortunately, marital affairs have been happening since the beginning of time and I can’t see a time when it won’t be happening. Nevertheless, we also can’t go around not trusting everyone because some people do it; suspicion ruins marriages because of the lack of trust. The number one ideal is to trust yourself and then you will be able to trust your instinct.
Affairs affect so many people and in different ways:
1. If you see your friend’s husband with another woman and it looks intimate – what do you do?
2. You find out your Dad is having an affair? Who tells Mum?
3. Everyone has to live with secrets and lies.
4. You watch a happy marriage fall apart.
5. After being caught; everyone wonders – will they do it again?
It is one of those situations that, until you are in it, it is very hard to know. Life deals us amazing hurdles and often when we least expect it.