The sleep team: If you are happy sitting at home alone reading that book into the late hours or watching movies or attending to home jobs that is great. But if you are one who likes to get out and it doesn’t seem to happen the trick is not to wait for others – you make the initiative and get a group together for the movies, dinner, a picnic, or whatever takes your fancy.
You can choose to sit at home feeling lonely, but what will that achieve? Wake up and get organising. When inviting people, just give people enough time to respond before you decide to invite a different person!
If you are new to the area and you need to meet people – there are groups out there to join. The local paper is a good place to start for something to do with others. This all gives you an idea of what is going on in your area.
Of course it is a let-down if you are not being invited to events by others, but don’t let this get you down. If they don’t feel like being around you, then you wouldn’t feel like being round them! People are in relationships for many different reasons – some positive and some negative. Choose to be involved in positive relationships which boost you up.
How do you know if people make you feel good?
1. Is gossip kept to a minimum?
2. Do people praise rather than the opposite!?
3. Do people take turns into deciding the venue?
4. Are everyone’s ideas considered equally?
5. Can you sense a happy, free and easy environment?
Try and not fall into the trap of only on-line friendships. Real ones are important.