Kids and behaviour and sleep
It is sometimes hard at the end of the day, after the kids are asleep, to enjoy the evening because you are worried whether you handled situations in the best possible way that day.
Your inner voice says: maybe I could have been more understanding, or more gentle, more consistent, more patient, happier….
The thing is we juggle so many things and we have to look at the big picture and if it is obvious that something is throwing out the system – then do something. Otherwise, be gentle and be forgiving to yourself – after all you forgive your kids constantly.
The number one thing is you love them to bits unconditionally and care for them in a million little, medium and large ways!!
I often think after my daughter is asleep – wow that was a tough day – or I didn’t handle that well. This thinking is often when I am exhausted too – so sometimes I just try and relax and know that I did the best with what I had at the time.
However, sometimes I do think next time I will try – for example: a positive reward chart, or I will think about activities to break up the day and ways the bond can be loving, caring, fun, safe and interesting and not tedious, hard, frustrating, maddening, lonely and boring. I also remind myself to pick my battles and ignore certain behaviours where possible!
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