People are complex and their marriage isn’t always easy, but the good news is there are strategies to fix issues. If you have a sleep issue and you do not want to go to bed at the same time as your husband – do not make the issue more than what it is.
Some people need utter peace, complete darkness, are more restless, and the other person needs to respect this. The first thing to do is not to ignore the problem , but tell your partner your concerns. Two heads are better than one. It may take a little while to pinpoint the solution, but if both people are caring and looking at the issue positively, this is a great example of how couples work together.
Imagine if you don’t communicate your bed issue and it might be as simple as your husband moves around too much. Your husband may think it is another issue and become distant. You may then suggest say you accidentally fell asleep on the lounge and meanwhile your husband is becoming more anxious that something terrible has occurred.
It is not that you don’t want to go to bed with your husband, it is that there is something you need to talk about with your husband that is making the bed time ritual awkward.
Think of the many other issues you have worked out with your husband – this one isn’t any different.