A friend told me this is what she does when her husband comes to bed so nothing but sleep can happen! This type of thing might make a funny conversation at coffee with the ladies and I guess pretending to be asleep occasionally might be okay in 50 years of marriage, but if this is a constant, it is probably time to communicate with your partner!
Kids sometimes pretend they are sleeping so they are carried to their bed or so they can stay in bed a bit longer! And some Mum and Dads might pretend to be asleep when their kids come in so they can encourage them to go back to bed! These examples are probably harmless, but when the habit goes into adulthood and replaces problems or issues that should be addressed, the issue is no longer harmless.
Adults may pretend to be asleep to avoid conversations they prefer not to have. If this behaviour continues, what does it mean on a larger scale? Are these people not facing reality?
It is hard to wake someone who is pretending to be asleep so if this is you maybe wake yourself up and find a way to break the habit if it has been happening too much. Try and pinpoint why you feel you need to do this and confide in someone and try and be honest with your loved one. You will feel much better and other areas of your life will also improve if this one is addressed. It is vital to be honest in relationships.
How would you feel if someone kept faking being asleep? I think most adults who want to talk or be intimate might find it insulting and dishonest if they knew what their partner was choosing to be dishonest and ignore an issue or issues.
Some people may also need to seek professional help and this will involve finding a counsellor or psychologist that you feel extremely comfortable with.
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