Whether it is your boyfriend, bf, husband, wife, Mum, Dad, daughter, son and the list goes on, to say ‘goodnight’ after a fight, is HARD!!!!
In your head you are probably thinking: “I mean, why do they deserve it, they said and did horrible things.”
But in reality, it takes two people to get off side and while one person may feel like they are more to blame, really both are involved. Say ‘goodnight’ because you are doing the right thing and setting a good example regarding how you want to be treated.
When you are not angry it is hard to imagine why it is so hard. Saying ‘goodnight’ just means I love you and care for you no matter what. Saying ‘goodnight’ doesn’t mean you agree with whatever has happened and it doesn’t mean the issue won’t be sorted. In essence, the ‘goodnight’ also means that you are going to bed and you want to end the night positively.
The important thing is, if you are going to the trouble to say ‘goodnight’, then do it properly with eye contact and a nice voice. Do not use the ‘goodnight’ as further confirmation that you are angry. Goodnight.