Many marriages have survived ‘going to bed angry’ so don’t think this is what will break you. Not everything can be solved quickly and if two people are tired and exhausted from the day, sorting things out the next day sounds quite positive.
Chairman of the board of the National Sleep Foundation and chief of sleep medicine at Brigham and Women’s Hospital, Doctor Charles Czeisler: “By pausing your argument until you’ve both logged at least seven hours, you’re potentially giving yourself a subconscious way to solve whatever issue is at the heart of your fight in the first place. It’s totally possible that you’ll wake up the next day with a better understanding of the situation at hand, and a clearer picture of how to solve your own problems.”
The important part is that the issue is addressed. Ignoring issues totally and hoping they will solve themselves, is not a positive long-term fix. Sure, in the short-term things will survive, but there will be more issues in the long term, so it’s best to sort out ones as they arise!
There is no magic number of arguments, it’s how they are resolved and the important issue is also that people improve individually and as a couple. Let’s not expect miracles overnight, but small improvements are really positive.
People are complex and expecting two people to operate in perfect harmony is unrealistic. Being with people helps us understand ourselves and if we want to stop understanding ourselves, then we should spend more time alone!