At night we often get cranky at our kids or spouses for the same things over and over again:
* eat your dinner
* hurry up in the shower and use soap
* clean up your room
* stop annoying your Brother
* use your manners
* you’re not listening
* why are you so late
I took something that was really annoying me and made a positive change. My daughter kept biting her nails and it was driving me crazy. I was not been handling the issue positively and it was creating more tension; I wanted to turn a negative thing into a positive thing. I think we all tend to communicate negatively and we are not with our family members for many hours in the evening. As parents, it is our job to teach our kids boundaries; we teach because we love. However, If the teaching seems to be unloving, then it is time to find a new solution. Reward charts are another good way to help kids adjust their behaviour.There is also a loving way to let spouses know we are not happy with something. This is my example of love and discipline towards my daughter and her nail biting:
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DO YOU REALLY WANT TO BITE YOUR NAILS Please remember: It doesn’t look nice when you are doing it and you are eating germs. You nails will look so nice when you stop biting. To help: Fiddle with a ball or paper clip or playdoh. Ask Mum: If you can chew gum when watching television to help you. *If you try Mum will help you try. If Mum asks you to stop – use this reminder to really help yourself. If Mum has asked you to stop and this doesn’t work and you are doing it again soon after; Mum will ask you to go and do some writing in your room (a paragraph). Mum is going to try and not get angry about it. Mum has ordered fake nails to glue on to help. |
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