Holidays for separated families
Currently, some states in Australia are half-way through their September School holidays. School holidays for many mean going to the beach, sleeping, reading, going to fun parks or catching up with family. For some children, who live in separated families, this is their holiday to see their Mum or Dad.
Working out the perfect balance is unique to every family. I have been sharing my daughter for more than four years. During holidays Emma has a week with me and a week with her Dad. Emma is now 8. She was four when she started ‘holidays for separated families’. I think it is vital to not judge others for different arrangements, however, just know it is hard to find the balance and it can take a while. The most important focus is the child having special times with the other parent.
So in a way, school holidays now, opposed to 30 years ago, are very different. And the important word here is different. Not necessarily better or worse – just different. There are many parents who struggle with the separation balance for kids and the hope is these situations will improve constantly.
We must remember to praise the parents working it out and who are amicable and the kids are flourishing as a result. Sometimes these parents are forgotten. Well done to these parents and give self-praise because only you know how difficult certain situations are at times: that little person/s, you care for so dearly, doesn’t need to be tucked in by you tonight, but they are being tucked in by someone else who loves them just as much as you do.