Can texting improve or ruin your relationship happiness? It depends on your purpose of communication.
If couples use texting to say sweet things like: “I miss you”, "”how are you”, “you are cute”, “you are special to me” this can really lift both people’s spirits; especially if it is hard to say these things. As a bonus, texting might also build confidence in people to be more affectionate in person. Basically, texting is a great way to start the fire again. Try this: when you are both home send a cute text from the other side of the room…this could set a really nice scene.
Couples should try and not see texting as a way of avoiding face to face communication, but rather a way to communicate differently and even in a cheeky, fun way. Texting sweet things can also diffuse future arguments because of the frame of mind both people are in due to the positive texting.
The downside to texting is to use it to fight. This type of communication is very negative and it makes it hard to reconcile…the current issue and their relationship.
If you are not comfortable with sending sweet texts yet, be careful how you respond to your partner if he/she tries; choose your words carefully, when telling or texting them, you are not sure what to do:
“I loved the text you sent, but I am not sure what to text back”
“I can help u”
“oki..I would like that”
“let’s say one word nice things about each other, I will go first: amazing”