Are you sometimes surprised what personal matters people tell you? Why would someone tell you the intimate details of their raunchy night? Are they telling you to help you with your sexual encounters or is it about them? Well, it is hard to say, but I know some of the things I hear I would not be speaking about.
What I wonder is why people do not keep it private and special and why boasting is important. Is it because they want people to think they are attractive and happy sexually and all is great? Funnily enough, often people think the opposite to what they are being told when someone’s story seems a little overt and too explicit!
What to do and what not to do when someone describes in detail their mind blowing night with Mary:
1. don’t ask more questions
2. don’t feel like you have to offer any insight to your sexual encounters
3. be there for the person in case they want to be honest and ‘real’ as well
4. be sensitive and don’t say that the scenario isn’t true
5. listen for as long as you can and then politely say you have to go
If being too intimate in detail about personal matters is something you do – then ask yourself why and whether your partner would appreciate it? Secondly, write down why you think you may do it and challenge yourself to change what you say the next time the situation occurs.