I know, I wonder this too. Some people talk about sex being as great as the day they met, others talk about never having it, others make little remarks. The most important thing you can do for your sex life is not to give two little tiny hoots about anyone else’s sex life.
Sex is easy for many couples because they don’t compare themselves to the Jones’ sex life. Some couples have worked out what suits each other and that is all. This can take time and love, trust and commitment will bring such connection.
It is very dangerous to compare what you are doing to what others are doing. The best thing to do is imagine what your best scenario is with your partner and work around that. Talk about sex with your partner and find out what each other wants and needs. Both people have to be patient and understanding. As with all facets of life, sex changes too, so go with it.
Let’s face it – people are funny creatures and, while we are not just plain dishonest, we all want to think what we are doing is the best and works and is right and people don’t have it better than us. This is why people tell amazing sex stories. Do you hear many dud sex stories in comparison? I know some people do tell ALL, but I wonder what the motive is for this too!
And if people are talking about great sex – this means a myriad of different things to different people. Your great sex might be a lovely relaxing night and then intimacy in the bedroom later. Someone else’s may mean a quick session in the morning or just kisses and cuddles and intimacy. Even the words I am using in this blog like intimacy and great sex mean many different things to different people.
It is also important to remember that not every couple does every situation well together and yes some situations are more important than others, but remember the big picture. Some couples may have great sex (they think) but can’t talk to each other or want to be with each other!
So, don’t listen to others and then make a judgement on your life. Listen to others only for fun and know people are complex and you only have to be happy with what you do and make choices that suit your life.