Good night Good night
Now, is good night said by one partner / husband / wife while the other stays up? Do you go to bed at the same time? Does one go to bed tossing and turning keeping the other awake? Does one desperately need to wake the other to sort something out?
The quandary of sleeping in sync. I mean I guess ideally it would be perfect to go to bed at the same time and to sleep peacefully in unison and wake simultaneously as well. However, I think getting two people on the same page all the time… is a huge task!
I know people have to sleep in separate beds or separate rooms to get a good sleep. And if one person goes to bed late and the other both find it hard to understand the other person’s needs. “Why can’t you stay up?”, or “Why can’t you go to bed earlier?”.
And then sleeping-in can become an issue. On weekends if one partner wants to sleep in half the morning and the other wants to go and explore the day….maybe both go solo!
Oh and waking someone to discuss what happened on Wednesday comes at a risk. I mean yes sometimes it is urgent in one’s mind and one can’t wait. I guess one just has to ask oneself about the quality of the response and is there any chance one can write it down on a piece of paper and wait until the person wakes. You just have to think of times when you have been startled for whatever reason…it is not the best way to wake up. Especially if one is already sleep-deprived.
So, I believe like anything when we are dealing with people – communication, communication, communication – is the key. The best solution is to compromise and keep all parties as happy as reasonably possible. It would be terribly boring if we were all the same so let’s embrace our individuality and work with others for peaceful living.