What is the best way to say no to intimacy and sex? Some couples develop a code or a word or a look, but others might need to be more tactful. It is very common for people to be on different wave lengths, so making sure communication lines are open is the key.
What is vital, in whether you say yes or no, is how honest you are being. I read a really positive article about looking at ‘no’ positively. One couple thought ‘no’ was good for their relationship because when either of them said yes to sex, the other person knew they really meant it.
For some people, it helps if they think about what they would like to hear if the situation was reversed. Some people like to be told early in the night/day that their partner is not keen and others like to hear a reason.
Some couples have routines, but they probably get boring, so it is good to mix things up a little. The main thing is that both people in the couple are satisfied with feeling comfortable with the sexual encounters and remember, it is easy for people to feel rejected if the person saying no is not being considerate.